Do we really need foreplay before sex? – by Charlotte Martin, The Sun

I found this on my Google homepage under the Digg widget. I think this is stupid. These kinds of studies are stupid. As the articleitself suggests, these studies may be misleading and the participants misguided. I think the easiest solution is to just ask. If you and your partner are new to each other, it may not be so clear what is expected or desired. What better way to find out than by just asking? There are ways to do this without sounding like a total jackass. All you have to do is be creative and seductive in your wording. Eventually, the goal is to develop this intimate relationship to the point where you don’t have to ask each other, but can feel what one desires in that moment. Well, that’s ideally…I think most people will never get to this point, which is a shame. But even so, good communication is the best thing for a relationship.

I feel sorry for those people who look to studies to guide them in what to do in bed. Studies are generalized, showing with broad strokes what can only be appreciated with fine detail. What each individual finds erotic is, well, individual to that individual. And it almost certainly changes depending on various circumstances, from how stressed they are to what fantasies they were having while in the office. If people could just take the time to really get to know their partner, there would be many many more happy couples.Well, off to brew some tea…